----This post was originally posted on Oct. 4, 2012...on a competitive
website----
What’s the difference between
“swinging” and polyamory…well let me begin at MY beginning…
About 13 years ago, I found myself
deep in the lifestyle of a swinger. My husband (now ex-) and I lived in the
Sunshine State where the weather was hot and the people were even hotter! There
was plenty of bare skin and sunshine to be seen by all…
Since I love to dance, clubs were
the venues for meeting new couples and if you know Florida, there are swingers’
clubs EVERYWHERE…beginning near Interstate 4 that is…
In the swingers’ lifestyle, you MAY
meet a couple for intimate fun once or twice…it was a flexible adventure at
best. Most people, including myself, were into it for the fun and good
times…with little care about relationships outside of primary ones (i.e. husband,
wife, boyfriend, etc.)
Well, as I skip ahead 13 years and
one monogamous relationship later, I found that the swingers’ lifestyle was
alive and well in Atlanta. There were websites that encouraged it and just as
many clubs where you could have on-site fun with other like-minded sexual
beings. In my mind, going back to swinging was not my real choice, but compared
to a solo monogamous relationship that needed a serious jump start, it seemed
to be the only choice…outside of straight cheating.
Searching through ads for swingers
was like searching through a meat-market…everyone wanted to show you what you
were missing out on…which usually included naked females and/or their various
body parts…breasts for days…ironically, not too many male anatomy could be found
…ummmm…interesting observation!?It appeared that all everyone wanted was sex,
sex and more sex…where was I to begin my search for friendship and intimacy? (This is a big difference between swinging and polyamory…sex
only versus intimacy with sex and friendship.)
On one site, there was a calendar
where you could check out ”dates” for the night…a few were only stopping over
in Atlanta for fun, as they passed through town… others wanted to meet on a
regular basis at a local club to have fun in the flesh with a couple (times 30)
of their closest “friends”. Not really turned on by the club scene any longer
(except for dancing)…I decided to read deeper into the written desires of
couples …so I got busy searching for faces, eyes and thoughts that caught my
attention…
Polyamorously Yours,
Atlanta PolyNewbie
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